By: Dympna

October 11, 2018

Having a new baby is a very exciting time in someone’s life, whether it’s your first child or your third child. It can also be a little nerve racking too especially if it is your first time giving birth. We all have this image in our mind what the actual labor will feel like and how we will handle the labor. For the most part, we go into labor and deliver a healthy, happy baby but for some of us it doesn’t work out as well as we planned. For my first pregnancy, everything was perfect during the whole pregnancy. Then the due date comes and goes and my darling daughter was not making her grand entrance into the world. Fast forward almost ten days later and she still wasn’t showing any sign of making an entrance. The only thing left to do was induce labor which means forcing your body into labor. 14 hours later, there still wasn’t a baby so the doctors decided they would do an emergency c-section. Within minutes she was here at a healthy 7lbs 4 oz. The biggest downside to having a c-section for me was I did not get to hold my baby until the next day, plus it took a little longer to recover after all I just had major surgery. Now in 2018, I have 3 children, all born through c-section. Each one was a totally different experience. It is reported today in the United States that almost 33% of births are through c-section. Some of them are for medical reasons and some are performed for convenience. What ever the reason, c-sections are becoming controversial. Women have been shamed because they’ve had c-section. They have been accused of been lazy and afraid of the pain. They been accused of not experiencing childbirth or knowing  what it is like to have a child naturally. Kate Hudson once said the laziest thing she ever did was to have a c-section. Although I believe her comments were taken out of context, there is nothing lazy about having a c-section. 15 years ago it saved my daughters life. As for experiencing child birth, I might not have had the same experience as some one who delivered vaginal but I have experienced childbirth three times and I have the scars to prove it. Does it really matter how we bring our children into this world as long as they get here safe and sound? The people out there who feel like they are entitled to shame mothers who have had c-section over vaginal births need to step back and look at the bigger picture, which is a happy healthy baby. We all have the same jobs ahead of us, raising our children happy and healthy.